I had to make my first post brief... don't want to overwhelm anyone, because trust me, I have A LOT on my mind.
So... I was at my 2nd job on Saturday (I work for a car dealership filing in the service dept., Saturdays only), and I have been crushing on my coworker for quite some time now. He just got back from two weeks off because he got into a car accident.
I'm pretty blunt, so I am pretty sure I have made my feelings for him obvious in one way or another... occasional banter, sexual comments here and there, you know, the usual ;) Well... on Saturday, I proceeded upstairs to the file room to do my job, and sent him a quick text asking if he could let me know what they decide on doing for lunch. His response "Can we just make out already and get this over with?" I responded with a nervous "Hahahahahaha". Five minutes later, he's upstairs saying it again... my response: "Well what are you fucking waiting for why don't you kiss me already?" as my stomach is turning, butterflies batting against my insides, face turning a bright red, shaky limbs and a shortness of breath. He kissed me. It was... WOW. Throughout the day he would visit me i.e. makeout sessions sporatically.
Anyways, the day ended. I invitied him to come over after he went to a party that night, of which he invited me to but I declined due to other plans. Happy now he didn't come, he was completely wasted when he got around to texting me and the next day told me he spent some time praying to the "porcelin god".
Texts back and forth continued throughout the weekend until I invited him over for dinner Tuesday night (knowing my "roomie" was at work, being respectful and all). My last "first date" with a guy was far from perfect, so I was hoping this one wasn't also doomed. Should have knocked on wood.
He was due to arrive at 6 because I was making dinner for that time... 6 rolls around, no sign. 6:15 rolls around, and my patience is wearing thin, I text him saying "I said be here at 6 not leave at 6". The response was "oh shit sorry. be there quick"
WTF?!
Either someone was napping or completely forget... he explained later why he was an hour late (didn't arrive until 7, lucky dinner was still warm) and his excuse sounded too confusing for me to even care.
We ate, I gave him a tour of my pad, we talked... I learned A LOT about his f-d up family! I won't go into details... we walked the dogs, and then... came back, and the games begin.
Somehow I got lured into my bedroom with the question of "how hard/soft is your mattress?" RANDOM! He tests it out, I stay on the couch, he proceeds to ask me questions from the room, I can't hear him, so I get up and walk in. Making out on the bed... More making out... Even more making out... It's getting hot & heavy... attempts to take clothes off at which I rejected... WTF does he think this is? I ask him if he came here to get laid, and he responds something along the lines of "No, obviously not, but I at least thought I'd get head or something"
OMG
Earlier in the night I had clearly told him I had feelings for him, minor as I know little about him, and also explained I don't want to waste my time on some meaningless fling... apparently this dude's not a sponge and doesn't fucking absorb anything I say.
The night continued with making out here and there, more talking, more attempts to get in my pants, then a ton of complaints about blue balls and needing to go home and jack off. When I walked him out he went in to kiss me, and I pulled back (don't know why, just found it funny) and he "punched my fist" like a homie would do and said goodbye and walked off. Ummmm, again, WTF?
It's Thursday, I have yet to receive a text, a thank you, anything! I can't decide whether our date was horrible, in-between, or decent?!
Lessons learned:
1. Don't have a first date at your place, always ends up in the bedroom somehow
2. Don't bombard a boy with questions of "where is this going?" which I didn't really at all and I am SO PROUD of myself because I am known for coming on too strong, too fast
3. Lastly, maybe don't share too many personal details about each other JUST YET, not that I even got asked any questions about myself to begin with!
Thoughts? Comments? Additions to my list?
MAN-CHILD!!!
ReplyDeleteRUN AWAY FAST!
Geez, do men not know anything? Easiest eay to get into our pants is to "LISTEN TO US".
He obviously has other intentions and doesn't respect the fact you do not want a random hookup. Especially after his comment - (No, obviously not, but I at least thought I'd get head or something")
First, men, listen up. We women do not get off by sucking your dick. The only time we really enjoy it, is when our bean is getting some attention too, or if we're at that point in a relationship when pleasuring you without anything in return is okay.
Until then, there are no one way streets...
Wow off track okay...
His actions are ringing loud and clear. He will only put in enough effort and tell you what you want to hear until he gets laid.
So proud of you for having the will power to say NO to this man child.
Please say there isn't a second date in the furture.
Your lessons 1-3 are very good points!!!
Another excellent post!
Welcome to blog world! I'm still fairly new myself but it's interesting to read the contents of everyone's heads.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts: your lesson number 1 would have been my comment if you hadn't already written it! A lot of men hear "come to my place" as code for "I'd like to do more than just make-out." He probably already thought you meant that at an earlier point: "I invited him to come over after he went to a party that night".
Having said that, his comment "I at least thought I'd get head or something" was pretty lame - way to screw up your future chances of getting what you want, dude!
I have to second Just Sayin' on the MAN CHILD alert, run away, sweet jesus run away...
ReplyDeleteAs to the rest, we she also beat me to the punch.